Causes, symptoms and consequences of the lack of affection in the relationship.

When affection is needed in the relationship, it is very evident since the affective expressions decrease.

It is defined as a lack of love. It is not satisfied when the love received is not what we expect. Generally, this lack of affection is associated with a period of childhood and needs that were not satisfied at that stage.

It could have been generated under a primary nucleus where affective expressions and attachment did not exist.

There are also people who have received the love of their parents but nevertheless feel that lack of affection. In these cases, people do not receive the courage and autonomy to be able to develop fully.

We invite you to continue reading about the causes that can cause a lack of affection in the couple, the symptoms and the consequences in these cases.

Causes

Affection is a fundamental element for every person when in a relationship. Practicing affection is essential to have a healthy relationship. The displays of affection strengthen the affective bonds.

Expressions of affection begin to be cultivated in the courtship and are sustained until the moment of making a more serious commitment. A comfort zone is sought and a selfish behavior is often established waiting for the other person to make us happy.

What causes this? that discomforts are created in the affective relationship, problems, etc.

What are the main causes of lack of affection in a relationship?

1. Lack of affection in childhood.
   This has a hard effect on maturity. The emotional, psychological development, love, affection and protection during the first years of a child’s life are of the utmost importance, since this will be based on the behavior when he grows up.
   
   
2. Need for protection.
   People need affection to feel safe. Otherwise, the lack of affection develops insecurity, mistrust and low self-esteem that can harm the couple’s relationship.

Importance of displays of affection

The displays of affection are important for the optimal evolutionary development of a person. It is received from the moment of birth, and although we grow up as adults we also need it.

On the other hand, we can say that excess affection during childhood also causes autonomy and insecurity to face life situations. Whatever the context, the problem arises when the lack of affection in the couple controls the decisions that are made when establishing an effective relationship. And of course, when making a show of affection.

Symptoms

What kinds of symptoms can a person have when they lack affection?

• Discomfort at the lack of gestures or words of affection.
  It happens when the gestures that were present at the beginning of the relationship are now gone because they have decreased.
  
  
• Passion diminishes.
  This is derived from the lack of affection in the couple, lack of understanding, and lack of details with the other person.
  
  
• Lack of tact.
  It refers to the fact that one of the spouses generates constant criticism towards their partner. Usually using ineffective and assertive language.
  
  
• Defensive attitude
  This is an indication that love has faded or that it is not like before. Sometimes it is because the details that the couple had in the first phase of the relationship are missed.

It is important to know that there are also people who are not affectionate and do not like to show emotions or affection. And not necessarily the love for the couple vanished, but it is part of their behavior.

Consequences

• Custom.
  Two people are still together without being clear about the reasons. Although it is not a serious consequence, it is not conducive to having a healthy relationship.
  
  
• Infidelity.
  The absence of affection and gestures can cause dissatisfaction that leads to sentimental frustration and sadness. When this happens, some people look to someone other than their partner for that satisfaction.
  
  
• Lack of communication.
  If you bring up the subject repeatedly, it can lead to a lack of interest and fatigue in your partner. As a consequence, the relationship stagnates, leading people to close down.
  
  
• Demotivation is the affective relationship.
  The lack of affection in the relationship can cause a complicated emotional situation and even affect the work environment.

At times, emotional relationships are often complicated. Especially when you have a high expectation referring to the displays of affection, for example, that they are constant. The first thing you should do before the lack of affection in your partner is:

1. Recognize that they are going through a crisis.
   
   
2. Seek help from a professional in the area.
   
   
3. Change the dynamics of the relationship. Try to communicate more.

Remember that at the beginning of a relationship, the displays of affection are constant. As the relationship matures, these may diminish but other important aspects, such as trust and admiration, are also added.

If you think you are going through a crisis like this with your partner, do not hesitate to contact us. We will be happy to help you.